from Finding Your Way After Your Spouse Dies

As you work through grief, you may not care what or when you eat or if you eat at all. It may even be hard for you to swallow when you do eat. Mealtimes can be sharp reminders of loneliness. In my own early period of grief, I could not eat in the dining area and face my loved one's empty chair. So I created an eating place in the kitchen. Sometimes I ate on a tray and watched TV. Many breakfasts I ate in bed. However you accomplish it, the important thing is to eat -- regularly and well.

Can you hear the voice of your mother? "Come on, dear, you've got to eat something. it will make you strong! Just try a little. That's right."

Listen to the voice of your friend: "Let's go to lunch today. We'll stop for groceries on the way home and stock your refrigerator and shelves."

Remember the advice of nutritionists: "Every day we need to eat fruits, vegetables, whole grains, low-fat dairy products, and a small amount of protein."

Don't forget the help you can find in your local bookstore: "We have a cookbook that focuses on easy-to-fix healthy meals."

Consider the advice of your doctor: "Take a multivitamin and mineral supplement every day, just to be sure you get your nutrients."

Finally, keep in mind what your loved one might say: "You know that I want you to eat and be healthy. If you can't do it for yourself, do it for me."

Dear God, Can it be that you are really concerned about my eating well? I hear you saying that my body is the temple of God. Help me to see my body as sacred and that it needs to be nourished with good food. But feed my soul as well, as only you can. . . . Amen.

Scripture Passages for Reflection:

Psalm 145: 14-21
I Corinthians 6: 19, 20


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